Having enjoyed for years when men could get away with everything and settle for a second marriage whilst still married to the first wife, women are now turning the tables are they are now leaving their husbands for a second marriage.
Women, are now seeing a second marriage as a second chance for happiness as this could be seen from the recent two reported incidences at Lusaka Civic Centre, where two married women attempted to get married whilst still married on two different occasions.
Families are Nations says there is serious need for this development to be given serious attention from the law enforcement agencies because if left unattended to, families and the country at large will totally be in disarray as the children and the families will be divided. This has also the capacity to increase the number of street kids.
Organization executive director Judith Mwila told the Zambian Business Times – ZBT – that the laws must be applied so that people can understand that they are committing a crime by engaging themselves in such acts and there should be strict punishments for the offenders.
Mwila said the Families are Nations have also observed with a lot of interest on this development and is questioning what is really going on in these homes where the women are coming out and wanting to get married to the second man while their husbands are there in the homes.
“Our concerns are firstly on matters of communication because it is not a normal thing and also retrogressive to the family. You can imagine people that have been married for over five years with children only for children to hear that the mother is getting married to a second man. This development is really strange and as the organisation we are trying to dig deeper and find out from the couples.”
She said from the outlook there could be something that is happening in marriages which is not conducive for the partners that want to leave and go and get married somewhere else.
“The women are possibly looking for a better relationships and they feel if they find another man they would probably get that so again it could be a misjudgement because what constitutes a better relationship, once you commit yourself to a certain man it means the man has qualified to you to give you a better relationship that’s why you chose him to marry you.”
“Families should be blamed for going this far because when there are disputes in the families there are processes to be followed and if they fail there is a church, councillors or court rather than ending up embarrassing themselves and the rest of the family members that way.”
“If a marriage has Brocken down the right thing to do is to end it first before another marriage can be contracted. So on our part we are equally shocked just like the rest of society is wondering what is going on and we would like to get into the gist of this thing to hear what is happening.”
“My advice to Married couples is that they should learn to resolve and reconcile and if they fail they can go as far as the court. We are further encouraging families to resolve things as they start because we don’t want more children on the streets because of marriages that are breaking.” She added.
